I ensure my client is on track to success by reflecting patterns they may not be seeing. I use their language. I highlight what they’re not talking about. I inquire gently about the inconsistencies in their story, and I help them identify what it is they’re believing about themselves that keeps them from being the leader they truly want to be. I stay out of the way. I hold up the mirror so that they see where they’re powerful - and where they play small. Every time this happens, the client becomes stronger, more self-confident and self-directed. A great success plan begins with the relationship between my clients and me. We need to be transparent, comfortable and enthusiastic about all that is going to take place. A great coach-client relationship is the magnet for drawing forward great outcomes. What’s your take on New Year’s resolutions? New Year’s Resolutions are a good start. But by themselves, they’re not enough to create sustainable change. New Year’s Resolutions tend to fail because there’s a poor understanding of the goal in the first place. There is always a ‘wantbehind-the-want’ that we need to identify in order to successfully create change. Losing weight is never just about losing weight. The underlying desire may be about emotional fulfilment or selflove. Until you get to that deeper want, the goal will flounder on the rocks of distraction. It’s hard to stay focused on your New Year’s Resolution when something else (more interesting) comes along at the moment. When you are absolutely clear about what is driving your ‘want’, you are much better able to create change. I do value reflection. Ideally, it’s something you do daily. “Am I on track?” “Does this align with what I most want in my business?” “What would be a huge win for me this year?” “What’s my intention for today?” So while New Year’s is one opportunity to reflect, it should by no means be the ONLY time we think about what we want. I encourage all of us to take time to consider whether our actions align with what we truly, deeply desire. And if not, reflect some more on what needs to change – before the year is out! What are your top tips on leading a happy and fulfilled life – both at the office and in your personal life? Actually, almost no one comes to me to ask for a happy life. They ask for what’s meaningful to them: improved follow-through, selfconfidence, skills for navigating conflict in the workplace. It’s as if they’ve already intuited what positive psychology has proven leads to fulfilment: engagement, self-compassion, meaning, agency. My clients know what they want. They may not know the exact concrete view of what they want, but they know that the yearning they experience is guiding them toward something more meaningful. They tell me that if they’re not living what matters, they’re not living. My tips for leading a happier life would be to ask yourself these questions: “Who do you want to be?” “What needs to be resolved for you to be that person every day? “What choices do you make when you feel afraid?” “What are you NOT asking for?” “When you are absolutely clear about what is driving your ‘want’, you are much better able to create change.” Ca r ee r & Pe r sona l Deve l opmen t 36 Finance Monthly.
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